Being Neglected

Neglection is a very serious matter; so serious it can easily be turned in to depression. Being neglected gives you a weird feeling in your chest, your heart. Well at least for me that’s how and what I feel. Sometimes we aren’t really being neglected we just seem like we are. But that still hurts our feelings. When you’re being neglect, you’re being ignored. It’s like no one likes you anymore and no one wants to pay attention to you. You just feel like an outcast to the world. Just thinking about it myself as I write this, makes me remember how I felt, and it’s just not a good feeling.

In our youth today many teens are being neglected a lot, mostly by parents. I have never been neglected by my mom so I have no clue what that is like. But if I was to be neglected by her I wouldn’t know what to do. For some people, friends are all they have, and being ignored by them is a heart breaking moment for them. When that happens they try to keep their mind off of it, which is a good thing, but they do it in a bad way. They go out and do something stupid, something that would get them in trouble with the law.  Or even worse, they run away and no one ever here’s from them again. Some say this is to happen to girls more because we are more emotional then guys. It’s true and there is NOTHING wrong with that. Because of that boys make fun of it, but it’s a something God gave us for a reason.

Just like the boy in my book that I am reading, Darnell Rock Reporting, by Walter Dean Myers, he wanted to live a better his life. He was tired of being in trouble all the time and was going to get kicked out of his school if he didn’t straighten up. He was taking the right step to change but his crew that he was always with didn’t like it. He wanted to do both, change and hang with his crew, but his “corner crew” wasn’t having it. They started ignoring him and he was being neglected by his friends. He started second guessing himself on whether he’s really making the right choice. That’s the only reason why he was being neglected and he didn’t like that feeling, and that’s natural.

I personally have felt neglected by almost everyone I know. It’s usually by family. I feel like they don’t always pay attention to me; like they’re not worried about me and they go on with their life. I want to scream, “Hello I’m here. Did you forget about me?” Then when that happens I turn to my friends. Other times I’m neglected by friends. But when that happens I don’t go running to my family. I turn to a really close friend of mine or a cousin I’m really close with. I know the pain of going through it because it happens to me pretty frequently. Sometimes I just go into this weird mood where I feel like people are ignoring me but they’re not. I know people who also go through that and realized I’m not alone. Talking to someone about it or just about anything is ALWAYS the best thing to do. You always have to know you’re not alone.

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The Difficulties of Changing

Changing is always hard. No matter if you’re changing from good to bad or vise versa. No matter what the problem, changing is a very hard thing to do. In many situations people change and are changing for the wrong reasons. For an example is your changing your personality because you like a boy and you want him to notice you, your changing for the wrong reasons. If you change you appearance because you want to be a part of a certain group of people, your changing for the wrong reasons.

In our youth today, it really breaks my heart to see how these teenagers are living now in days. If you know the way you are living isn't how you should and you know you’re going down the wrong road, then changing your life around is the SMART thing to do. Yes, i understand it is a hard thing to do. Breaking all your old habits is the hardest part. But don't give up just because it’s hard. Keep at it and you will reach the goals you want. Especially when you have a group of friends that will despise you and neglect you, but on the bright side, the person you become will gain friends that will be better for you in life. Friends that will go down the path you want to do down, and fulfill the dreams you want, that way you have no conflicts to go through. This boy named Darnell in my book, Darnell Rock Reporting, for Walter Dean Myers, also went through this. He didn't want to get kicked of his school, just like his principal threatened. So he joins the school newspaper just to stay out of trouble with his "Corner Crew". Doing something productive like this is a great way on your changing journey.

I personally went through a changing phase. It wasn’t big, but for my age it was. When i was in fifth through eighth grade i had a terrible potty mouth. I was always cursing because my friend was. I was raised in a Christian home so that wasn't me or how i was raised. Until i got caught i didn't realize how much it was wrong, or how much i was hurting my mom. It wasn’t easy because that's how i spoke for years under cover, but i did it and very proud of myself. I realize now that that's not the road i should be taking.

A great Black History example is Jean Michel Basquiat. He was an artist that loved what he did. He made is art noticed but putting them on postcards and t-shirts that he sold.  Jean died at an early age of 27 of an overdose. If he was to spend more time in his art then there’s a big chance that overdose would have never happened.  Doing something to keep you occupied is a great way to keep you out of trouble. No matter if people are making fun of you it shouldn't matter because you doing things to better your life. Worry about you and you only then you can become the person you want.
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